In one of the most prolific moves ever made in NFL draft history, with the 249th pick the St. Louis Rams selected Michael Sam.
To say that he was elated by this announcement would be an understatement. Surrounded by friends, family, and most notably his boyfriend (whose kiss has been replayed numerous times on ESPN and those who support Sam cannot get enough of the emotion behind it) Sam could barely contain the myriad of emotions that took over him since announcing publicly in November that he is gay.
Sam caught much criticism for his stalled performance at the NFL Combine earlier this spring, but the league continued saying that any team who drafted him would be doing so based solely on performance and not because of his sexual orientation.
Back in November I wrote about the NFL’s resistance to go forward with the inclusion of a homosexual player and I waa asked yesterday about two other players, both gay, who were never picked up by a team despite having gone through workouts and been considered worthy candidates if they had gone public would they had made the 53-man roster? Would drafting them come from pressure to not catch heat from LGBT groups or would it really be from teams liking ther on-field work?
No one’s certain on what those instances may or may not have birthed, the only real true focus is on going forward now with Sam and completing training camp. The sports world, meanwhile, will continue to Stand with Sam.
By Ashanti Bradshaw
Ladies, we’re in the heart of the 2014 spring season and what better way to celebrate shaking off those cold shoulders than by getting a fresh mani-pedi right?
What if, at the same time, you were also able to bring attention to the disparities placed amongst those suffering from mental health issues by society’s many stigmas?
Well, now you can! Thanks to the brilliant minds at The Brandon Marshall Foundation, a non-profit headed by Bears Pro Bowl WR Brandon Marshall, his wife/VP/co-founder Michi Marshall and CEO Louis Correa, they’ve partnered with OPI to unveil today their newest color Crazy Stigma Green in honor of mental health awareness. Marshall created the foundation after being diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder in 2010, it was then that he and wife Michi decided to be the light for those who struggle daily with their own darkness like my 20-year-old cousin who’s now fighting schizophrenia.
So for a donation of just $25 or more you can make everyone green with envy as your fingers smile from their bright green hue, but you’ll also be doing something huge for the mental health community as your contribution (100% of it, none goes to an overhead) will help with furthering research, education, and treatment because a healthy mind is a happy mind and I don’t know about you but fresh pedicures make me happy. Green is also my favorite color so this bottle might not last the month of May & I will happily donate again and again and again. Perhaps Sephora might wanna carry it? Hmm…
For more information on The Brandon Marshall Foundation and to see what he and his crusaders are doing for the mental health community please visit TheBrandonMarshall.com, there you’ll also learn how you can get involved with volunteering your efforts as well as information on how to get help if you or someone you know is battling mental health.
By Ashanti Bradshaw
This has been a week shrouded with rather unflattering off-season news for two NFL superstars, one active and the other now contributes his time to the NFL Network (same network that thought bringing on a certain former Raider/Buccaneer blowhard/crumb snatcher/cancer amongst women would be a banner idea).
I know who they are. You know who they are but for laughs let’s just refer to them as Beavis & Butthead. Why “Beavis & Butthead”, you say? I say “why not?”
Beavis is currently facing 2 counts of allegedly drugging and raping 2 women, as if the Saints needed more negative exposure post-Bounty Gate. Meanwhile Butthead was spotted in a casino channeling his inner WWE entertainer by choke-slamming his fianceè (was The People’s Elbow not a good enough move to get your point across?) and dragging her.
I know you’re saying “Wow that’s digusting!” and I absolutely agree, this behavior has been going on for much longer than most would like to admit to. Some would ask “Is anything being done about it?” Well there is the Personal Conduct policy that players agree to, in no way do I feel domestic violence is covered the way it needs to be. This is a learned behavior, no one starts abusing women the minute that ink dries on their contract.
Even with the NFL launching tactics geared towards female fans, like the form-fitting jerseys and NFL apparel line found in stores like Victoria’s Secret, no amount of bejeweled pink jerseys or pink cleats for Breast Cancer Awareness Month is going to deflect my focus away from the fact that the league truly has no deep respect for women nor does it plan to even entertain trying to see us as anything but subserviant breeders who should only respond to “Kitchen, now!”.
Also consider the fact that famed tennis powerhouses, Venus and Serena Williams, are both minority owners of the Miami Dolphins, another team that had a whopper of a shadow cast upon it when the Incognito/Martin incident began. An incident that was rife with bigotry and racist names, which is ongoing in locker room culture but in the case of what the media has deemed a “bullying scandal” amongst the Dolphins’ club one could ask if the Williams sisters felt insulted by having players on the team who think so little about minorities(in this instance, women and blacks)? Do they even care this is tolerated? I’m sure they had an inkling as to what they were getting into before agreeing to take a stake in the franchise but I know that they’re really just “one of the gang” for the sake of exposure. No matter how that exposure makes you look.
Do I expect sweeping changes in response to the ongoing lapse in the league’s understanding of women & how it should be known from the front offices down to the mascots? Of course not. But I’m not going to act like I’m not fully aware of how out of touch the NFL is & that they aren’t really ready for change, they’d just rather give the impression that they’re hip and cool and “down” when really they’re mumbling under their breath about your worthlessness simply because of who you are and that you exist.
Just as I mentioned in my previous piece “O Gay Brother, Where Art Thou?”, on the surface the league isn’t as ready for out & proud players as they want to elude to* just like they will never take women seriously. But so long as you’re willing to fork over all your money to help add to sales in NFL merch, then the greater good is beyond pleased and all that ugliness about how players treat/view women is swept under the proverbial team emblem-ladled rug….
….you know, til one of us is killed by a player. Maybe by accident, maybe for not staying in our place. But you know it’s coming. What’s that thing people say about history repeating itself & how “it has to get worse before it gets better”? Right. I would rather my extreme example not be the end result that shakes things up but clouds are also not made of cotton candy so all one (woman) really can do is pray to your religious deity (be it Jesus, Buddah, that shrine of Tom Brady complete with a lock of his hair and a pair of unworn classic UGGS, or Aquaman) and hope for the best.
* (UPDATE:as I wrote this news broke that the Brooklyn Nets will sign Jason Collins so I’ll definitely be watching to see what type of reception spawns from this)
By Ashanti Bradshaw
Mike Freeman of Bleacher Report released an article Wednesday on the current status on homosexuality in the NFL and the stalemate between two unidentified players who are, not only ready to be signed and play football, they’re ready to announce to fans and players of the NFL that they’re gay.
Why is it stalled? Simply put:fear.
At a time when states are finally realizing the importance of same-sex marriage to their everyday livelihoods, the NFL says that it’s ready to embrace gay players but deep-down it isn’t nearly as ready as it thinks. For example, the instability of the Dolphins’ locker room and how it now paints a grim picture on locker room culture. For a male already having to struggle with gaining judgement-free acceptance from society, hoping to get anything close to the same brotherly protection his hetero counterparts have reads like a pipe dream.
I commend the optimism in those still wanting to embrace these men into a league shrouded by that brute, simplistic Old World mentality when it comes to the sexuality of others. They fully intend to lead by example because as the years change so does that of the mindset of generations to come.
Some currently active players come from upbringings that either taught tolerance of others or shared ignorance, many of whom have personal experiences based solely on what the male figures in their lives deemed as “feminine behavior” or “not of God’s will”, a.k.a. “The Adam & Eve, Not Adam & Steve Mentality”. This starts at home, bleeds into college and develops over many lifetimes.
Individual tolerance starts at that very point, on an individual level. Only this one person can decide for themselves if they will open their heart and mind to many differences including cultures and sexualities, the world is after all still a melting pot.
Hazing in the locker room has gone on for much longer than people want to accept, and certain behaviors just grew acceptable but with the idea of ushering in a sexually-open NFL changes to those behaviors won’t be an easy feat. Again it will have to start on an individual basis, with many of those in leadership positions showing younger players this is a new NFL and the old way of doing things is now passè.
No one really knows for sure the timetable on when we will have a more accepting NFL, even with the league’s Personal Conduct Policy policing tolerant behavior we still have players who are tough nuts to crack. Will future changes be made to the policy once everything is official, but not so much that players will feel like they’ll have to coddle gay players? I sincerely hope not. Eventually they will have to ready themselves for gay rookies and in a perfect world they’ll do so with open arms.
By Ashanti Bradshaw
Last night while many were engulfed in the MLB playoffs, others were tuned in to PBS’ gripping documentary centered around the ongoing controversy between the NFL and pro players, both active and retired.
Now one could say that you’d be hard-pressed to not have heard some inkling of news regarding the thousands of players who filed suit against the league, accusing it of turning a blind eye on the repercussions involved in football, most notably dementia and CTE (also known as Chronic Trauma Encephalopathy), or scrutinize those who seem to be the most surprised about any of the revelations made known during the PBS broadcast but anyone will tell you that nothing about head trauma within the NFL is remotely breaking news.
In September of this year NFL Commissioner Roger Goodell and the league agreed to a $765 million settlement payout to some nearly 4500 former players seeking restitution for what they felt was the league purposely withholding evidence linking football to concussions & the long-term effects that spawn from it:dementia and suicide are just a few of the bigger players. While these findings are staggering at best the larger argument here is that the league, who would rather suggest that steroids are the reason for so many concussed results than admit to football being the sole cause (the very same steroids you deemed permissible, NFL? Oh.), as well as players will continue being a part of the very game that’s just as physical as ever but only now is that level of physicality being questioned.
The maneuvers that the NFL have taken to show that they’re really taking this matter can look like they’re admitting guilt and trying to right all wrongs to the untrained eye (the Heads Up program geared towards Pop Warner teams, for example), but it’s yet another PR move designed to distract your attention away from the fact that football on any level whether pro or high school will continue being the monolith that it has become amongst contact sports and arguably the most popular sport in America. Always safety first.
By Ashanti Bradshaw
One woman (who I assume is a Saints fan based on her location) and many, MANY, pissed-off fans have taken their frustrations to the Internet and Change.org to start a petition aimed at the NFL asking Congress to revoke their tax-exempt status. Organizations like the MLB and NBA have in the past given up their status as a non-profit, allowing them to pay federal taxes but the NFL has yet to follow suit. Below is a copy of said petition, currently signed by 121,213 people:
I just signed the following petition addressed to: Congress.
Revoke the Tax-Exempt Status of the National Football League
Despite the fact that it is a $9Billion/Year Industry, the NFL Commissioner and Owners continue to enjoy status as a non-profit organization. The NFL should pay their fair share towards our economy! Additionally, they have methodically worked to shift all the power to their side, leaving players, employees and PARTICULARLY THE FANS little say in what goes on with the league. We deserve a say, but do not wish to boycott our teams! Therefore, we are calling on our elected representatives to revoke the tax-exempt status we bestowed upon the league half a century ago. Please write letters to your editors, to your senators and congresspeople, and sign the petition!
Hard to say just how far this will go or if Congress would lean hard enough on the league for changes to be made, but it’s definitely clear that devoted fans have had just about enough with the No Fun League.